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Quarter of Brits have low self esteem
June 25th 2013
As a quarter of Brits admit they never feel good about themselves, Ayesha Muttucumaru chats to a confidence coach for tips on boosting self esteem
According to recent figures, a quarter of Brits never feel good about themselves, with the same number admitting to not being able to even face looking at themselves in the mirror. Furthermore, a troubling 35% of parents were found to feel like that they had no confidence to pass on to their children.
The worrying stats come courtesy of a study commissioned by the Transform Cosmetic Surgery Group as part of their Feel Good Campaign – a series of programmes with the aim of empowering the nation to celebrate and enjoy their lives. So why do so many of us feel so bad about ourselves and what effect is it having on our day to day lives?
According to confidence coach Louise Presley-Turner, “One of the biggest things that holds us back in life is a lack of self-worth, usually a result of the mishaps and setbacks that we’ve experienced in the past. These limiting beliefs usually stem from our childhood and we often take them into adulthood too. Unless we shine light on these beliefs, they can completely rule our lives.”
The huge popularity of social media in recent years doesn’t help things either: “Facebook reads like a highlight reel of people’s lives, often leading users to compare and despair. The effect on people’s self-esteem is massive.”
Here at Get the Gloss, we think it’s high time that women start liking what they see in the mirror, so we asked Louise for her best self-esteem boosting tips to help build confidence and get you feeling better in your own skin.
1. Set boundaries and don’t be afraid to say no
It’s important to set boundaries, set clear lines and know when to say no to things. When we’re feeling low, we still continually give our time and energy away. I compare it to a bank account – if you keep on constantly giving £10 notes away, you’re soon going to end up skint.
2. Keep a success/gratification log
We’re very good at dismissing our achievements, so to boost your confidence, write down your successes every day or at the very least, once a week. They can be as simple as a compliment or completing a work project. It’ll help reprogramme your life and give you a boost. I use this technique myself as well as with my clients.
3. Create a dare list
That is, a list of activities that scare you. They can be small (such as taking an alternative route to work) or big (like learning how to swim or how to drive). This will get you used to being on the fringe of your comfort zone and will naturally increase your confidence.
4. Take inspiration from someone you admire
This could be someone famous or someone at work for example. Imagine how you would act or hold yourself if you were that person, analysing and copying them until it becomes natural. It’s about seeing what the confident do and then trying it out for yourself.
5. Visualise a more confident you
This requires visualising the perfect version of you and how you’d like to be, standing in front of you. Imagine yourself stepping into that body - try to do this before stepping out of the door every morning. Visualise the things that you’d do if you had that confidence and if you actually were that person. It’s an effective way of reprogramming your brain.
Try incorporating the above into your daily routine and little by little, you’ll be able to not only see, but feel a real difference. Ensure you stick with it though and treat it in the same way you would a new fitness regime. As Louise puts it, “Consistency is key, it’s not enough to do it once. Working on your mind should be approached in much the same way as going to the gym.”